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NC intervened in abuse

Two women in Hapjeong saw a man assaulting a woman, he was beating her and shouting. When trying to intervene he was violent toward the two women. The police were contacted and directed by the two women, but after arriving, the police did not do much after the man claimed it was his wife and said there was no problem.

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Harassed by coworker, Anon

I am married and the man who assaulted me is also married, has a child (who attends our kindergarten), and he is also my coworker.
The staff was at a work party celebrating completing the first month of school. The man was speaking to myself and a couple other coworkers about Tinder and how “awesome” it was. About how if he was single he’d be “fucking a young woman every night!” He also expressed that he wanted to be on it; when I said, “yah, if you weren’t married” he responded with “well, we all do stuff”. He then (sitting next to me) slurs out “are you on Tinder?” (Side note; everyone knows I am maried, also my husband was at this event). I say that I am happily married. He asks against and I say firmly, “No”. during this whole conversation he is staring down my shirt: in a very obvious way. He then get up to get another drink, pushes himself up against me from behind, with his hands on my hips, and whispers in a slurred, drunken voice, “I really want to dance with you later”. He ran his hands down my lower back, slapped my ass, and walked away to get his drink. I left the bar right after that; my husband got me out safely and quickly. I was very upset; this was the fourth time I have been assaulted… (Different men).
I reported it to my school and went through a week of having to have a meeting everyday (going through every detail over and over). Including a meeting where he was in the room. His story changed several times, and mine stayed consistent, yet the admin decided to take no action against him: he still works with me. I got labeled as overreacting and over sensitive.
I was told by a female coworker that I should have talked to the man personally for clarification before reporting it. I heard “he was drunk” “he was just being friendly” and “are you sure that’s what happened?”
I go to counselling to deal with my anxiety now. It’s very hard working with him everyday. I try not to let my students near him…

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Thanks for supporting the Korea Queer Culture Festival

Dear Hollaback Community,

It has been a pleasure to read from those of you on Facebook who let us know you came to the festival on Sunday and supported organizations like KQCF, the film fest, and performers that participated on stage or in the Pride Parade. It was especially nice to meet some of you at the DDing Dong LGBTQ Youth Crisis Support Center booth.

Thanks for being a part of this crowd~
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Chelle: They shouted “Gays go to hell!”

homophobic street demonstratorsI attended the Korea Queer Culture Festival on Sunday, June 28, 2015. As I exited the subway to go to see performances, some LGBTQ-rights opponents were shouting at me, “Gays go to hell!” They asked me, “Do you want to die of AIDS?” and had some pink and blue signs and visors saying “No Gays in Korea” and “Gays get out” and “For a Healthy Korea, no LGBT.”

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Melody: physically attacked for standing up

I was physically attacked and harmed last night for standing up for myself and others who were being harassed. It was very scary and traumatizing, and I am still shaken up. I just want people to be more aware of what others are doing around them, ESPECIALLY out at bars/clubs. We need to do a better job of looking out for each other.

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Anon: Staring is uncomfortable

I am just reading and having a cup of coffee in [a fast food restaurant]. I heard mumbling but did not realize at first it was directed at me. The older man sitting nearby is staring at me, when I stand up to get a napkin, to throw away trash, his head turns to follow me with his gaze. He sits there mumbling and staring at me. I moved seats but still, when I must pass to use the toilet, he is still staring and watching. Staring is a rude, intimidating, confrontational and uncomfortable behavior.

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Yonita confronts a man who touched her, a second man stares at her breasts on the train

As I was getting off the train, a man poked my butt with something that I don’t know. I am assuming that it was either his penis or his finger. At first I walked away, thinking that I was mistaken to feel that someone has intentionally touched my body parts without my permission. However, I had a strong gut feeling that this was an intentional “poking” by someone. I turned back to the harassment point and talked to the guy that seemed to have touched my buttocks, and ask him, “did you poke my buttocks?”. He ignored me and stared at this smartphone. I asked him again in a louder voice, “did you touch my buttocks, Mr? I am asking you!” He did not reply and ignored me. His eyes were on the smartphone. I felt as if I did not exist at the place. This time, I started yelling at him in a very loud voice so that everyone could hear. I yelled at him, “Reply me!! WHY DID YOU TOUCH MY BUTTOCKS? DO NOT TOUCH LADIES BUTTOCKS IN A METRO WITHOUT HER PERMISSION!” He still ignored me, staring at his smartphone watching a baseball game. Soon, some people around me stared at him but then as he did not reply me, people looked at my face as if I was not in my mind. I wanted to take a photo of him, but I felt scared that he might suddenly attack me. Many thoughts, such as “what if he has a knife in his pocket? what if he suddenly chokes me?” threatened me. Moreover, the fact that NO ONE in the station was intervening the situation but I was the only one protecting myself made me think that NO ONE will stop him even if he attacks me. I yelled at him again last time, “DON’T DO THIS AGAIN, OKAY?” and cleared away from the harassment site. I was so horrified that I couldn’t even find a way out of the station. After I wandered around a bit, I found myself in the harassment site again and he was still there, still staring at his phone. I stood there feeling vulnerable, and people were staring at me not him. As the train arrived he got on the train and left the site. After he got on the train, he finally put his head up to see if I was gone, but I was staring at him in ager. He starred at his phone again. The train left, and I found a way out to get out of the station. As I was climbing up the stairs in complex and very distasteful emotions, I found out that another old man was walking next to me, staring at my breasts. I faced him in an anger and with the clear facial expression that his staring was not nice. However, he did not stop staring at my breasts and I ran away.

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Anon: “Look up, baby.”

He called “Look up, baby” as he rode past me on his bike. I am entitled to look wherever I like.

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